WTF, WordPress!

I’m quite irritated with my blog’s tag cloud. Some tags I used multiple times aren’t showing at all, while a couple I only used once are. I guess I could download the code and try to see how it’s supposed to work.
I’ve done some WordPress customization in the distant past, and though I have my own domain and could have easily set up my own WordPress instance on it, I chose to use WordPress.com because I use my domain for professional purposes.

Some people have no issue mixing their business with pleasure. Indeed, some people appear to make no distinction. But I may want to talk about a transgender I met recently that I found attractive and am fantasizing about on occasion. I may also want to talk about how I think blue collar workers’ unions in North America are an anachronism. I may also want to say religious fundamentalists are poor, unfortunate sheep, similar to those victims of the great Capitalist Ponzi Scheme, the US middle-class Republicans. And I may also want to speculate what Reshmin Chowdhury smells/tastes like.

Sometimes I may want to express opinions that are important to me and I want everyone to know. Other times I may want to turn off the filter and speak frankly, but not everyone necessarily needs to hear it (occasionally I don’t know what I’m talking about). And still other times, I may just feel like talking shit.

There are people in this world who cannot or will not make the distinction between these. I don’t write for them. I write for me. A typically arrogant and selfish North American attitude that is, and I know it. I am thankful I live where I do, with all the things I hate and love about it. Still, while I may enjoy this freedom, my freedom ends where yours begins. And I realize not everyone agrees with or wants to be subjected to my personal opinions. In my professional relationships, I want to be judged first and foremost by my work and my professional conduct. So what would happen if, on first contact with me, my professional contacts were dropped into my personal life and my opinions? Invariably, it would color their opinions. I wouldn’t want to be subjected to that, so I won’t subject others to that either.

So is discretion just another word for duplicity? Yes, to some degree. But if someone wants to challenge me face to face on anything I’ve said here, I think I’m comfortable enough with it to be able to explain and discuss it with them, assuming they are reasonable people. But there are many people in the world who are not, so I see no reason to advertise personal opinions that would put my business, my livelihood at risk.

But anyway, back, back to the tag cloud, the real purpose of this post. There’s nothing else to read here. I’m testing tags.

Renaissance Nerds

This past weekend, I attended a day-long unconference for freelancers. Having been a freelancer already for many years, I found the sessions I attended to be more useful as refreshers than anything else. Still, networking is good and events like this force me to do a bit of that.

By my estimation, attendees consisted of about 75% high tech/design professionals: web developers, graphic/web designers, social media marketing experts. Basically, lots of nerds, a sprinkling of cupcake girls, a dusting of headhunters, and a smattering of life coaches, for comic relief.

But the nerds, they aren’t what they used to be. They’re now what I like to call renaissance nerds. No longer the basement-dwelling social pariahs of yore, they’ve traded their pocket protectors for wetsuits. They do triathlons. They travel. They go to pubs and drink beer. They eat out at exotic restaurants and review them in their foodie blogs. They talk to girls! They do flash mobs. They speak eloquently and passionately at public events (though still about the same nerdy stuff). They appear to be fairly well-rounded individuals and generally they are. But of course, there are exceptions.

Sitting in on a couple of sessions, I had the misfortune of sharing the room with one of these. He happens to be a bit of a celebrity within the tech community and has words like “entrepreneur” and “hacker” and “infovore” attached to his various social media bios. In both sessions, he sat mostly staring at his phone, attending to his twitter account, but he did see fit to open his mouth on a number of occasions to tell various people (presenters and attendees alike) in no uncertain terms how wrong they were in their thinking and approaches. Furthermore, on each occasion, his volume was at least twice that of the person he was dressing down, making him doubly annoying.

Accepting constructive criticism is necessary for personal growth. If someone has proof or experience that’s contrary to yours, they should share it and you should consider it carefully. But there are ways to deliver constructive criticism to strangers on a public stage that I believe are more conducive to success.

I’m sure this individual likes to think of himself as a positive disruptive force. I assume he has some measure of entrepreneurial success (he no doubt has 20+ pre-IPO social cloud mobile API solutions between here and Silicon Valley, finalizing negotiations for third round funding blah blah blah), which he could point to as proof he knows his shit. And it’s true, that as much as I would have liked to tear him down, I agreed with the content of his message.

But form is important too. So is awareness of the context and audience. Most of the attendees and presenters at this conference were newbies (maybe not in their professions, but at least as freelancers). They are excited and scared, eager to learn and eager to share. At the point they are in their learning, they need some easy wins to give them confidence to keep moving forward. Taking an adversarial tone (“You’re doing it wrong!”) is a fantastic way to discourage them or shut them down completely.

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I’m not saying people need to be coddled. These are adults after all. But a person in defence mode may be too distracted to experience the learning moment you want them to have. If they’re too scared to share with other newbies because there’s some been-there-done-that know-it-all ready to tear them down, they may not bother trying in the future.

I’d like to say I hope I don’t have to come anywhere near him again. Unfortunately, he seems to attend a lot of these events. And unfortunately, if I cannot make a reasoned argument against him and I’m in the wrong mood, I may need to simply punch him in his fucking face.

I really don’t want to do that though. He may very well not be aware how much he came off as an ass. Nobody said anything, but then, most people wouldn’t in these situations. Drawing more attention to him would likely not have been helpful either. I’ve already touched a bit on the social issues my son has and what he may be facing some day when there’s no one providing play-by-play commentary for both him and the people around him. It is entirely possible that he could become one of these well-intentioned but socially inept individuals, but I sure hope not and I’m going to do whatever I can to make it not so.